Despite increased awareness of the issue of domestic violence, many myths abound about it. As family law attorneys, we have encountered many people with questions that seem to arise from the myths surrounding domestic violence. It is vital to debunk the myths surrounding domestic violence. In this article, we debunk some of the most prevalent myths about domestic violence.
Myth #1: Domestic Violence Does Not Affect Many People
False: Domestic violence is common in the United States of America. Statistics suggest that more than ten million people are physically abused in the United States every year. However, while still common, incidents of domestic violence are said to have reduced significantly since the mid-’90s.
Myth #2: Domestic Violence is Only Physical
False: Domestic violence is not only physical. There are many types of domestic violence. Domestic violence encompasses a range of abusive behaviors, including sexual, emotional, and financial abuse. All these other forms of domestic violence can be as damaging as physical violence.
Myth #3: Domestic Violence Only Happens in Poor Families
False: Domestic violence does not discriminate and can happen to anyone, not just people who are struggling financially. Riches do not provide immunity from abuse. Domestic violence occurs throughout all societal levels, ethnic backgrounds, and religious groups. Additionally, while financially unstable individuals may face significant barriers when trying to seek help or leave abusive relationships, even the rich can face certain barriers when trying to seek help regardless of their financial situation.
Myth #4: Victims Can Easily Leave
False: The truth is that it can be hard to leave an abusive relationship. Victims of domestic violence face many barriers to leaving, including financial dependence, fear of retaliation, emotional attachment, and concern for the safety of their children. Abusers also prevent victims from leaving by using tactics such as financial control, manipulation, and threats. However, while it can be hard to leave an abusive relationship, it is not impossible. Many have done it. Resources and support are available to help domestic violence victims safely exit abusive relationships, including legal protection.
Myth #5: Only Women are Victims of Domestic Violence
False: While women may be affected more by domestic violence, it is not true that men are not victims of domestic violence. Men, too, can be victims of domestic violence. Unfortunately, this myth can prevent male victims from seeking the support or help they need. Men, too, can fall victim to all types of domestic violence, including physical, sexual, emotional, and financial abuse.
Myth #6: Domestic Violence Occurs Due to Drugs and Alcohol
False: Drugs and alcohol do not cause domestic violence. People choose to abuse others. There are many people who use drugs and alcohol and do not act violently. Abusers will often use alcohol and drugs as an excuse for their behavior, but there is no causal relationship between alcohol/drugs and domestic violence. However, while there is no direct link between alcohol/drugs and domestic violence, alcohol and drugs can be exacerbating factors for violent people. Alcohol and drugs can impair judgment, reduce self-control, and increase aggression in abusers.
Legal Help is Available
Legal resources are available to ensure the safety of domestic violence victims, including restraining orders. Domestic violence victims should consult with a lawyer specializing in family law or domestic violence. An attorney can help you navigate your situation effectively. To schedule a consultation with our New Jersey family attorneys at the Trabosh Law Firm, call us at 856-874-8840 or fill out our online contact form.